I usually will not get much time to read personal emails regularly…. But once I received a mail (forwarded mail) from one of my close colleagues and took a pause from regular work and started reading it carefully..
The mail body contained a poem penned by the writer Rebecca Knight and from the very first line the whole poem is heart-touching for all the parents and specially if you are a working mother… Below is the poem as received ( it is really not just a poem it has loads of emotions/feelings embedded in it ) as felt by kids who are left with nannies/domestic help/day-care/relatives…
Being a working mother, I definitely feel and understand every line mentioned above… We (Many women including me) would really love/want to work post/after pregnancy for any of the below reasons as per my observation:-
- Financial constraints ( Loan payments /commitments)
- To support husband and family, parents in today’s expensive world
- To persuade one’s career and have their own path/follow their passions/ ambitions/aspirations/dreams
- And many more valid reasons..
And as according to me there is no correct path/way/direction that we can conclude saying ‘This is right or this is wrong or this is valid/correct’… Every decision is based on situations and experiences.. Also the kid’s psychological development is also very important which cannot be brought back later…
But I personally feel if mother goes off to work for any critical reasons, the very next person who can take care of the kid could be grand-parents( who are best, reliable,dependable and best option).. Next option would be day-care ( since it is almost just like schools and there would be numerous children and security).. I really do not suggest nannies/domestic help until supervision by a well known person…………. But last but not the least, the better option would be to take a break for some span of time and personally taking care of kid and pursuing with work post-that…
I think this is still debatable … do let me know your feedback/opinions on the same? 🙂